What Division Is Doing to Us — As a Country and as People

In today’s world, it feels like division is everywhere — politically, socially, culturally. As a therapist, I see how this widening gap between “us” and “them” affects not just the nation, but each of us on a deeply personal level. So, what exactly is division doing to us?

1. Fracturing Our Sense of Community

Humans are wired for connection, yet when division grows, it weakens the social bonds that hold communities together. We begin to see others as enemies or threats instead of neighbors or fellow citizens, which can lead to isolation, mistrust, and loneliness.

2. Increasing Stress and Anxiety

Constant conflict—whether in news cycles, social media, or everyday interactions—creates a persistent state of alert. This “us vs. them” mindset fuels anxiety, anger, and a sense of helplessness that wears down mental health over time.

3. Eroding Empathy and Understanding

Division narrows our perspective, making it harder to understand others’ experiences or viewpoints. Without empathy, dialogue becomes difficult, conflict escalates, and solutions grow elusive.

4. Undermining Democratic Values

A divided country struggles to find common ground for meaningful policy-making and cooperation. When polarization dominates, progress stalls, and the foundational principles of democracy—compromise, respect, and shared purpose—are threatened.

5. Impacting Relationships and Daily Life

Division doesn’t just stay at the national level—it affects families, friendships, and workplaces. Conversations become tense or avoided altogether. People may feel they have to “choose sides,” leading to alienation and conflict even in personal spaces.

How Can We Heal?

• Start Small: Engage in conversations with curiosity, not judgment.

• Find Shared Values: Focus on what connects us rather than what divides.

• Practice Empathy: Try to understand the stories behind others’ beliefs.

• Take Care of Mental Health: Set boundaries on news and social media to reduce overwhelm.

• Promote Community: Support local initiatives that bring diverse people together.

In Closing

Division challenges us all—but it doesn’t have to define us. Healing starts with each of us choosing connection over conflict, listening over shouting, and kindness over fear.

As a therapist, I’m here to support those navigating these difficult emotions and relationships, reminding us that despite our differences, our shared humanity is what truly matters.