The D Word: Divorce Isn’t the End, It’s a Plot Twist

Ah, divorce. The big, dramatic “D word.” The thing no one puts on their vision board but somehow ends up happening anyway—kind of like stepping in gum or downloading TikTok “just to look.”

Let’s be real: no one gets married thinking, “Wow, I hope we really crush it for 7 to 10 business years before going full courtroom drama.” But life is weird. People change. And sometimes what started as “for better or worse” turns into “I can’t live with the way you chew cereal.”

So, let’s say it out loud together: Divorce is not the end of you. It’s not shameful. And no, you’re not cursed—you’re just evolving.

“But What Will People Think?!”

Honestly? People will think what they want. Some will act like you just announced a natural disaster. Others will ask for the tea like it’s reality TV. (Shoutout to Aunt Linda for texting “😢 praying for you” and posting “#TeamYou” on Facebook.)

But here’s the truth: they’re not living your life. You are. And if your soul is slowly shriveling inside a relationship that feels more like roommates (or enemies), then ending it might be the bravest—and healthiest—thing you ever do.

Divorce Isn’t Failure—It’s a Plot Twist

You’re not a failure. You’re a character in a story who hit a major turning point. Sure, it’s not the rom-com ending you planned, but maybe it’s the origin story of your real glow-up.

Besides, you tried. You gave it your all. You tolerated in-laws, mismatched socks, and that weird phase where your ex got really into cryptocurrency. You deserve a medal.

But since medals are in short supply, I’ll say this: you deserve a fresh start without shame.

What Divorce Teaches You (That Marriage Maybe Didn’t)

1. You can assemble IKEA furniture solo (with minimal cursing).

2. You know exactly how you like your life arranged—from the playlist to the thermostat.

3. You realize compromise is important, but not at the cost of your peace, personality, or snacks.

4. You get really good at “smiling politely” at people who say things like, “Have you tried counseling?”

The Awkward But Honest Truths

• Yes, you might cry in the grocery store.

• Yes, you’ll probably second-guess everything while eating cereal for dinner.

• And yes, you’ll one day laugh so hard with your friends about how you used to pretend “things were fine” while slowly turning into a human anxiety ball.

But eventually, you’ll breathe again. You’ll sleep like an actual human. You might even—gasp—date again and realize it doesn’t have to be a horror film. (Unless you’re into that. No judgment.)

In Case No One’s Said It Yet…

You’re doing great. You’re allowed to protect your peace. And if divorce is part of your story, it doesn’t make you broken—it makes you brave.

And if someone still insists that “you should’ve stuck it out,” kindly remind them: “So should my ex… but here we are.”